When it comes to the number of people you have slept with, it’s no doubt that there is a double standard between men and women. Guys are applauded for high numbers and girls with high numbers are just sluts. Men can sleep with as many women as they’d like and it doesn’t hurt their reputation or their future as much as it would a woman.
While the double standard exists, I wonder, is it the amount of people that we sleep with that gives us the reputation and stigma, or how we go about sleeping with them?
Sex is a natural desire, if you’re not doing it, you’re probably thinking of doing it. If you’ve never done it, you most likely wonder what it’s like. If people weren’t having sex, you wouldn’t be reading this.
The importance of your number is irrelevant,
how you got to that number is what is important.
In a society that is so sexually active and curious, it’s only natural to be curious about having sex. Engaging in coitus is an activity we do to procreate but moreover, it freaking feels good, so we do it for pleasure, right?
When evaluating the amount of people you’ve been sexually active with, you must ask yourselves are you sexually active because you’re comfortable with your sexuality and you enjoy having sex, or are you trying to please someone else by doing it?
Many people have sex even when they don’t really want to, or without thinking of the repercussions it may come with in hopes that it will come along with other additives such as stability, a relationship, a family, etc.
Instead of having sex with the intentions of it giving you anything other than pleasure, make sure you’re having sex for YOU and no one else. It’s one thing to be a giver in bed, that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m saying, if you’re going to sleep with someone, make sure you’re fully ready to accept any and all responsibilities that may come along with that coital experience.
If you’re having sex for you, and you’re doing it safely, and experimenting with your sexuality in a way that you’re 100% comfortable and proud of, then it’s not your actual number that matters in the grand scheme of life; but rather the way you’re counting the experiences.
Count Them Proudly, and Just Blau Me