The married man asked me if I wanted to see a magic trick … who doesn’t? He stuck his ring finger in his mouth and slowly sucked it right off of his finger. This “magic trick” made me wonder one thing, are we ever really truly committed to someone?
Granted, I wouldn’t have touched this man with a 10-foot pole, along with most of the other women in that bar, but I wanted to smack him with one. Not only was this man sucking his finger, he was talking about how he gives the best oral sex, and how he loves to “eat and lick pussy” and how he’s the best at it, and was even voted #1 in college. Let’s not forget about how he also gets laid 10 times a day. The only thing that lays him 10 times in one day is Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters.
This man put his ring right back on his finger and continued to brag about his cunnilingus technique. He was with his single guy friends and surely went home to his wife that night, and slept soundly, but is he really committed where it counts?
Many single people hope to find someone who they want to be committed to, and women want that dreamy engagement ring, but this situation made me think long and hard about it. What is a ring on your finger, when it can be sucked off just as quickly?
Finding someone we want to get married to seems impossible to many people, but I’m beginning to think, the ring, the wedding, the partner, that isn’t the difficult part, rather it is the mental commitment that is impossible to find.
It’s one thing to be looking at other people, scoping out the grass on the other side, attractive people are always going to turn heads, but it’s another thing to act on it. Then I asked myself, if I was happy and in love, why would I act on it?
We are all so guarded that I think we subconsciously believe we can’t be fully committed in fear of getting emotionally destroyed. Men and women admit that they both talk to other men and women before their engagements, knowing that they weren’t going to actually do anything with them, but for what?
If we were genuinely happy with the people we’re with, why would we be talking to other people for attention? Insecurity.
Insecurity within oneself and the relationship. Why else would you be searching to feel wanted, desired and care for by anyone else but the one you’re apparently in love with? We look for validation in others when we’re not confident with ourselves.
To all my single readers, take your time finding mental commitment, find someone who satisfies all your desires and compliments you. Worry about the physical aspects later, the inside is much more important.
To my committed readers, ask yourself if you’re really committed, if you’re not don’t settle. You’re better off single and committing to yourself, than to someone else who doesn’t complete you.