Many people automatically assume that if their partner has his or her eyes closed during sex that they’re fantasizing about someone else. However, this may not be the case!
Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex, which means that everyone has sex differently.
Sometimes people close their eyes during sex because they simply like to. People tend to voluntarily close their eyes in trusting situations as it inhibits their ability to see their surroundings. It can make people feel vulnerable, but it can also allow people to simply relax and just let go.
Sex is something that takes concentration, especially when it comes to orgasming. Men sometimes close their eyes to focus on lasting longer, or staying hard, especially if they have difficulty in these areas.
Just The Tip: For men who ejaculate quickly during sex, try to focus on something else in order to delay the climax. *Think of something not someone else.
By focusing on something else, one can do many different things, like switching positions, going back to foreplay, taking a break from the actual act of intercourse and making out or simply closing his eyes in order to think of something that may not be as stimulating.
Women can sometimes close their eyes to focus on achieving an orgasm. Men seem to think that a female orgasm is as easy to attain as a male orgasm is, and for some few lucky women it may be. However, for the majority of women, achieving a full body orgasm whether clitorally or internally through the A-spot is a lot more difficult to attain.
Some things that can get in the way of achieving an orgasm are body-image and sexual and emotional insecurities. Orgasms for women are about 90% emotional. But keep in mind, although we don’t think or hear about it often because of gender norms, men deal with sexual and emotional insecurities as well.
If you feel as though your partner is not looking at you because of your image, try telling them to look at you in a positive way. For example:
DON’T do this –>
“why don’t you look at me, am I not turning you on?” or “who are you thinking about? You must be thinking about someone else because you’re not looking at me”
DO this –>
“I love when you look at me like that” or if your partner doesn’t usually open his or her eyes, try saying something like, “I get so turned on when you look at me like that.” Sometimes, if you’re not comfortable being verbal you don’t even need to say anything, instead you can grab their face and look at them passionately and kiss them once you’ve established eye contact. This may even make you feel closer.
Many men and women, but primarily women note that f&%# buddies tend to avoid eye contact during sex. Sometimes visually avoiding a partner during sex can mean that the partner or partners involved are emotionally not invested in the sex and would like to keep it that way.
Sometimes when you avoid eye contact, you’re avoiding acknowledging the person with whom you’re sleeping with, which can allow for an emotional disconnect.
It is important to note that most people don’t expect to maintain solid eye contact during sex throughout the entire act of it, but occasional eye contact, especially during missionary position can bring two people closer, especially emotionally.
Losing one sense is also known to heighten all other senses. If you close your eyes during sex, or your partner does, don’t necessarily jump to conclusions that it is a negative thing, it could be anything, and maybe they’re just focusing on feeling, tasting, smelling and hearing you.
Just The Tip: Try blind-folding your partner or having he or she blindfold you in order to see how much your sight plays a part in your sexual experiences.
Use all your senses during sex, or Just Blau Me.