just mom-ing around 🤗
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Sometimes being a mom means you just take care of yourself. I mean realistically how can you actually take care of another life if you don’t take care of yours first? Sure you could argue that two donuts and a coffee filled with sugar is not self-care LOL but to me it is! 🤣 in all seriousness though, the thing about being a mom is that you don’t have to have a child to be a mom. I know that sounds a little weird because theoretically a mother is defined as a female in relation to her offspring. But, as people in the world we all have something to take care of, and that something is the self. Before you fixate on wanting to be a parent or rather just wanting someone else to take care of in your life, whether it be a partner or an animal, consider what you can do to mother yourself and take care of you. If it means you eat two donuts, coffee filled with sugar and take a selfie on the floor... go ahead, mother yourself! .
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#motherhood #mother #momlife #inspiration #inspirational #motivation #selflove #selfie #coffee #dunkin #donutqueencarli #dunkindonuts #donut #donutjudge #diet #sugar #nursery #mommy
(dog)MOM 🙌🏽 .
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Dogs are so fascinating! My little one, Bentli Barker has been my pseudo child for 8.5 years now. He had a stroller, a car seat, and Joie’s @babybjorn was HIS before it was hers... people used to say, god help that dog when you have a child. I was worried about it too, but then I got pregnant. He slept next to my pregnant belly every night, and now he looks over my daughter every day. Gunnar is a rescue from @louieslegacy and he’s switched roles in our home since I had the baby. Once I became pregnant he was scared, wouldn’t sleep next to me or come on the bed. It was as if he was afraid he’d hurt me. The anxiety hurt my heart, and then Joie came 💕 and now he is back to not only being a mommy’s boy, but he checks on Joie, guards her room and our apartment (not aggressively, just likes to check on her) and let’s me know ANY time she cries. .
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It may have taken me some time and hard work to get pregnant and become a mom to a child, but I’ve been a mom for 8.5 years and I am so beyond grateful for these boys 🤗
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🔹Advice: if you’re expecting, or recently had a baby- bring the hospital swaddling blanket home and give it to your dog before you bring baby home. It lets them get familiar with the scent. Also, never bring the baby to the dog, but when the dog goes to look at the baby or check it out reward with praise. Obviously, never leave the dog and baby together unsupervised! As much as you want them to be best friends, realistically you don’t want the dog to be friends with the baby because it’s still an animal and you want to be careful— so many dog bites occur out of anxiety or when a little child pulls on their hair or something. We use our words to defend ourselves, they use their mouths— you just want your dog to be comfortable around the child and not scared or anxious. Our vet @vetcierge helped us with understanding the necessary boundaries that parents should implement with their dogs and children and it was super helpful! 🐾
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#dog #dogmom #momlife #mom #parenting #parent #love #family #dogtraining #dogandbaby
One day, Sunday 🖤
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I dreamt of days like this for years. Days filled with love for myself, a man who respects and adores me and a beautiful healthy child .... and my mama told me there’d be days like this, my mama said! — and there were many days in my single years, my days of infertility where I didn’t believe her — where I didn’t believe it would happen for me. But then I began to shift my thought. I began to believe I was worthy of it. That I was worthy of self love, self respect, love from someone else, and that my body was capable of creating and holding a child.... and here we are. Me - my self, my man and my child, and all I can say is that my one day, some day, came true #grateful .
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#believeinyourself #believe #inspiration #motivation #sunday #blackandwhite #photo #picture #family #cute #love #loveyourself #blessed #thankful #ivfbaby #ivfmama #ivf #infertility #infertilitysupport
When someone says, “but at least you get to be home all day” 🤣 .
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🎩’s off to my stay at home parents and nanny’s who take care of the baby, pets, and run the household... this shit ain’t easy! Imagine not ever being able to leave the “office”. Imagine you have to carry your boss around with you everywhere and you have to feed them every 4 hours (or even more frequently)- and sometimes you even have to put your nipple in their mouth and sit there like that until they’re done sucking🥇or get attached to a machine that sucks your nipples, and you have to find a way to do that, while watching out for your boss and doing all that they need you to do. Then on top of it all, you have a home to keep clean, dishes to do, bottles upon bottles to wash, breasts to pump, pump parts to clean, baby laundry to do (3 times a week) and then add your own laundry and pets to the mix!! And did I say, POOPSLOSION diapers? 💩
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This post is a reminder to show appreciation and gratitude, to say thanks and to help however and whenever you can, and to just understand that being home with a baby is not easy, it’s one of the most challenging tasks. It is a full time job in itself. There are days when I guarantee your stay at home partner wishes they could just get “out of the office” for a little bit that’s not an option, so provide a little space and time for your partner to do that when you can. Work together to find help if you can get it, and continue working hard so you can provide the best life for yourselves, and your child 🤗 remember, by supporting each other in your partnership, you support your child. .
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Parenting is about TEAM effort, even for single parents, it’s about finding a team of individuals who will support you in your times of weakness and help you to help yourself 💗
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Sending so much love to every parent who is out there doing it ALL and doing your best at it. We got this, we’re all amazing and we’re going to raise incredible children because at the end of the day; we’re teaching them what LOVE is. ... now back to regular vacuuming! .
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#parent #mom #momlife #singleparent #life #dad #teamwork
Me & My Mini ...(Ryan)
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Today I went to a mommy & me group and it was awesome! There is nothing like finding a group of people who can lift each other up during the most vulnerable times.
I took away 3 important things from today:
1️⃣As mothers, we are all in the most vulnerable of spaces in need of lifting each other up and encouraging one another. It helps so much to just know you’re not alone. Sleepless nights, relationship fights, challenge with balancing the life you had before with the one you have now— we are ALL going through it!
2️⃣What works for you and your baby may not work for someone else. Don’t freak if something that is working for someone else doesn’t work for you, make it your own though. It is always worth sharing what works for you because it may inspire another mom to find a way to make it work for her. But being a mother, and figuring out your child is all about taking what knowledge we have in the world and making it work for the benefit of you and your child.
3️⃣ Fake it til you make it. When I say this I don’t mean be inauthentic to yourself, but rather live the life you WANT. One mom said “you always seem so put together; happy and dancing!” And the truth is, I AM happy and dancing because it’s my goal, to FEEL that way, but I don’t always feel it at my core. In fact, those are the days I dance and smile more. Days when I need to convince myself, to fake it until I make it, that I am going to be more than OK, I am going to be great! .
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Thank you to the moms in the group, you inspired me and made me feel supported! 💗
#motherhood #mom #baby #twinning #cute #mommyandme #momlife #loveyourself #ivfpregnancy #positivity and thank you to @lkushner12 For taking this sweet photo! 🤗
